Unite your suffering to Jesus

The Meaning of Your Suffering

by Father Brian J. Soliven on Sunday July 20, 2025

Suffering, in its raw and earthly form, often feels like loss—of control, of comfort, of certainty. Yet in the mystery of the Cross, suffering is transformed into something beautiful and redemptive. For the Christian, pain is never wasted. When united to Jesus crucified, suffering becomes a hidden seed of joy—a deep, burning joy that springs not from relief or resolution, but from love.

Nowhere is this paradox more vividly lived than in the life of St. Francis of Assisi. The Poverello, the little poor man of God, did not seek comfort but embraced poverty, rejection, and pain with startling eagerness. He called suffering his “sister” and welcomed the cross as a kiss from Christ. To most, this is madness. To the eyes of faith, it is radiant sanity.

St. Francis understood that the Cross is not merely an object of devotion but a doorway to deeper union. When we suffer in communion with Jesus, we are drawn into His redeeming love. The pierced hands and feet of the Savior become not just symbols of sacrifice but invitations to intimacy. In bearing wounds, we share in His mission; in being broken, we become like Him.

It was in his own suffering that Francis found his deepest joy. When he received the stigmata—the wounds of Christ—in his body, it was not with fear but with trembling awe and gratefulness. His pain was not merely endured; it was loved. Why? Because it drew him closer to the Beloved. Suffering, then, was no longer a curse, but a triumphant crown.

This does not glorify pain for its own sake. It is not a call to masochism or despair. Rather, it is a call to see with the eyes of eternity. To suffer with Christ is to love with Him, to redeem with Him, to hope beyond reason with Him. It is to whisper in the darkness, “My God, I trust You,” even when everything hurts.

In this light, suffering becomes a sacred gift. It humbles, purifies, and opens the soul wide to grace. The world may never understand this joy but saints like Francis remind us that the Cross is not the end of the story. It is the beginning of resurrection.

And so, when we suffer—whether in body, heart, or spirit—may we not flee too quickly. May we pause, breathe, and gently unite our wounds to His. For in His wounds, we find healing. And in our suffering, united with His, we find joy—deep, lasting, and eternal.